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Sex Ban? Old Trick. Kenyan men have long had a plan B for it. Here’s My Advice

April 29, 2009  
Written by kenyanobserver, in COMMENTARY, Featured

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I have long told my friends that our women quietly use sex or the lack of it to “punish” us when they feel like they are not being listened to or “pre-reward” us with it when they know they are going to need us to do them some out of the way favor down the road.

You see, sex is a taboo subject especially for Kenyans in my age group (40 and above) to freely talk about in public so whenever I bring this up in surroundings I’m comfortable with, I’m usually the only one left standing – luckily with my pants on.

So it’s interesting that women in Kenya led by FIDA have gone on a “sex-strike” to teach our men a lesson. For my buddies out there — see, I told you !!

Unfortunately, I’m sorry to say that Kenyan men (not all of them) have long been aware of this and have developed a coping mechanism by maintaining ndogo ndogos (literally means “small small” – the real translation of this though is a young woman usually post-teen but not quite thirty yet) on the side or keep multiple wives (legally) to counteract this.

If the women of Kenya want this to work, they really need to look out for those wayward ndogos ndogos who might not be willing to stick with their “coalition”. If you are in a polygamous marriage, tough luck – this tactic becomes moot and you need to think of another way to get that man to comply.

If you are really serious about keeping your man at bay in addition to the sex boycott and watching for those renegade ndogos ndogos, you need to find a way to disconnect from him emotionally and financially – keep him guessing. That way, you got him. Keep him wondering whether there’s a sugar daddy on the side.

[CAVEAT: This is a humor article that is not to be taken for it's face value or seriously. The world has too much going on right now and it doesn't hurt to relax and let the mind loose once in a while. If you get in trouble with your spouse because of advice you read here, I will not be held responsible for the consequences :) ]

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2 Responses to “Sex Ban? Old Trick. Kenyan men have long had a plan B for it. Here’s My Advice”

  1. FEDELIS says:
    May 13, 2009 at 1:52 am

    WHY SHOULD KENYAN WOMEN BE CONTROLLED BY FEW, I WONDER WHAT BROUGHT SUCH THINKING IN IN NJOGU AND THE OTHER (BOYCOT), SEX IN MARRIAGE IS NOT A SIN, INFACT PAUL SAY SEX IS FOOD. AND THIS HAS NO IMPACT TO WHAT IS FACING KENYA AND ITS LEADERS, WE ONLY NEED BOTH SIDES TO COME TOGETHER AND HAVE ONE TALK AND ALL SAIL IN ONE SHIP SINGING ONE CHORUS ” AMANI, MAENDELEO,VIJANA KAZI, MAJI AND ALL THAT,

    THIS BOYCOTT LED TO BROKE IN RELATIONSHIP AND CONFLICTS IN MARRIAGE, MEN WENT TO LOOK SEX ELSEWHERE, AND PROSTITUTION INCREASED,

    SO THIS WOMEN SHOULD BE IN FOR IT DUE TO WHAT HAPPENEND,

    LASTLY:

    KAMA WASHA SHINDWA NA NDOA ZAO 0R HAWANA MABWANA WAHESHIMU NDOA ZA WATU WALE WENGINE

    GOD FORBID

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